Discovering that your partner has been cheating on you is one of the most painful experiences that one can ever go through. After the trust and confidence that you have given your partner, it is no joke to find out that he has been unfaithful to you. But is this the end of it for you? Should you just give up and let go of the person that you have loved and cherished genuinely? Is it too late to save the relationship and get back the love?
Before considering these questions, pose these questions to yourself first – do you still love your partner enough to take a shot to save the relationship? If you answered yes, then, by all means do what it takes to get back the love you lost.
Try to analyze the situation. Why was your partner attracted to the other person in the first place? Was there something wanting in your relationship to push your partner to seek another love? What is it that the other person has that your partner did not find in you? Have you been indifferent and have been taking your partner for granted, thus, giving your partner reason to fall into the arms of another?
The tendency with relationships, especially those that have been going on for a considerable amount of time, is that partners feel so familiar and at ease with each other that they tend to forget the things that have brought them together in the first place. Early on in the relationship, you and your partner were filled with passion and enthusiasm and each of you would always put your best foot forward when you are together. As the relationship progresses, partners sometimes tend to forget this. Have you been remiss in making your partner feel special? Have you neglected your looks? Has your relationship fallen into a rut and become dull?
When the things that attracted you and your partner in the first place begin to deteriorate, this gives rise to the tendency of your partner to look elsewhere for what is missing in your relationship. The attention that your partner gets from another will make him or her feel good, sexy and alive again. You may feel that this is beyond your control, but, on the contrary, you have power over the situation and there are things you can do to save the relationship.
First off, appraise yourself. If there are things that you used to do or used to have that you have neglected over the years, bring them back now. Start looking good and sexy again for your partner; you may have allowed yourself and your looks to decline. Bring back the passion and excitement. Think of the things that gave delight to your partner during the early days of your relationship and bring these back. These will help light the flame again.
And finally, talk with your partner. Let him know that you have been hurt by what he or she has done but are willing to forgive and give it a go again to save the relationship. You and your partner can, together, thresh out the problems in your relationship. When you do this together chances are you will be able to find solutions that can help save the relationship and get back the love lost.
